Flying

I have spent most of my adulthood as a child psychologist. (That is probably because I spent most of my childhood as an adult psychologist, but that is another story.) In the last decade I have had the good fortune of indulging in a hobby that I had dreamed about most of my life—flying. The parallels between my vocation and avocation are at times striking.

As a pilot, the most important decision one often makes is whether or not to fly on a particular day: the decision to launch is often called the “go/no-go” decision, and one of the most important predictors of safety. It consists not just of checking the airplane, but also of checking all the circumstances surrounding the airplane, not the least of which is the weather. Airplanes have a way of doing exactly what you tell them to do: the weather doesn’t. What goes on around the airplane is equally as important as what goes on inside.

As a child psychologist and behavior analyst, what goes on around a child can be equally important to the successful outcome as what goes on inside. For those working with children, understanding the family environment is like understanding the weather for the pilot. It can predict the success or failure of your mission.

As a pilot, one must always be “ahead of the airplane,” a term that roughly translates to making sure that you have done the planning, practiced scenarios, and know how to operate the machinery so well that the airplane doesn’t lead you where it wants to go, but instead that you are in command of the direction and manner in which the airplane performs. As a behavior analyst, you always want to know where you are going, and it behooves a good behavior analyst to know what the goals are and be facile enough with one’s tools that one can react quickly to any deviation that may arise. While one should always have a plan, as both a pilot and a psychologist, one must be prepared at a moment’s notice to give it up and let it go should the unpredictable complexities of life demand an alternate course of action. But when an alternate course is necessary, both the pilot and the psychologist ought to have the tools and preparation to react swiftly and effectively.

Good pilots need to relax under pressure. It is well known that many accidents occur as a result of a pilot panicking under adversity and making nonsensical decisions. As a psychologist, children will sometimes surprise you by pressing buttons you didn’t even know you had, or raising the stakes with sometimes egregiously self- or other-destructive behavior. Thinking clearly and calmly under those circumstances (and remembering your training) can go a long way to positive outcomes.

And, as is true in nearly endeavor, practicing your skills and keeping current is essential. It is said in flying that experience is the thing you get as a result of not having any. And, of course for psychologists, it is no wonder that what we do is called “practicing”. We only get better by doing what we do over and over again, and constantly learning better and more effective ways of using our tools.