Just a Little Bit Better

Ten years after Braulio Montalvo succeeded Salvador Minuchin at the reins of the Philadelphia Child Guidance Clinic, an interviewer asked him what the biggest difference was in his impressions of family therapy from the early days. He stated that he learned to expect less, that families didn't change as radically as what was hoped for when family therapy was nascent. Yet, what became clear to me after practicing family therapy for two decades, was that small changes in families were often perceived by family members as big.

As a couples and family therapist, I learned to ask a simple question. What is the smallest change that needs to happen in order for you to know that things are getting better?

When people were able to focus on making small changes, they felt better. Change did not have to be daunting, and they could see their accomplishments and feel good about their success.

As behavior analysts, we know this well. We are taught to shape behavior by breaking down complex behavior chains into their smallest parts, and we teach "successive approximations" until the complex behavior becomes seamless.

Can we apply our own methods to ourselves? What if we told ourselves, "what is the smallest change I can make in order to know things are getting better?" Would we choose not to focus on losing 20 pounds, but instead on 2? Would we choose to finally pick up the musical instrument that sits dormant, and practice for just five minutes a day? Would we choose to write one page of our dissertation or that article we have been intending to tackle, instead of focusing on completing the entire project?

I am a sixties (that's 1960's, not 1860's) musical fanatic. I can't help but think of Peter Noone singing the chorus of one of Herman's Hermits great songs: Now ain't that just a little bit better?

Happy Kaizen New Year!

Those of you who have recently been meandering around the hallowed halls of Pacific Child and Family Associates have heard me muttering the word "kaizen" repeatedly under my breath. This is my new mantra. I have been trying to implement this American-born and Japanese-bred management style at Pacific Child, in true kaizen style, little by little over the last couple of months. Things are going great here, and I do believe this approach is a very cozy bedfellow for those of us who call ourselves behavior analysts. It is a method that encourages personal initiative. It is interactive and flexible, creating cycles of creative progress which ultimately lead onward and upward.

So, in the next few blogs, I intend to clue you in on the principles of kaizen and how they apply to what we do.

There are several facets of the kaizen approach, some big ones and some not so big ones. One key element is the focus on making small, measurable change, as opposed to large, radical shifts. Sounds like ABA, yes? We take our baseline, assess the problem, make a plan, measure the outcome, and memorialize the results if they are positive. It is the classic A-B design.

But in this entry, I want to focus on another piece of kaizen philosophy. That is the piece having to do with the importance of taking care of oneself. It is about working hard at what we do, but not so hard that we allow ourselves to get burned out.
In this holiday season let’s pause and consider how self-care gives us more energy to care for others as well. Self care doesn’t mean self-indulgence, or being self-centered. And it’s much more than finally taking that long, slow bath or treating yourself to a massage. Nurturing oneself can also mean embracing the kaizen principle of ‘personal discipline’ as a daily practice. That type of self-care helps us reduce from our lives those things which waste time, energy, space and resources. We find we have more time and more energy.
It’s not about expecting more from oneself than is reasonable. Rather, recognizing that the kaizen elements of effort and quality and can be applied to our own lives as well as our work. Underlying it all is the willingness to change.

Research has shown that the majority of New Year’s resolutions are broken very quickly. The one-shot, sudden approach, no matter how well-intentioned, can fail us. I’m going to look toward 2011 as the beginning of a fresh personal philosophy, inspired by the kaizen method of sustained change which is aimed at gradual improvement in a humane, people-oriented way. I hope to take better care of myself and in so doing take better care of our employees and our clients. Happy New Year.